Do you ever leave the house and imagine yourself strutting through a classy film because your outfit is just on point? Come on, we all have—even if it was for prom. That feeling of being unstoppable, like you can do anything and face anyone. All of this, fuelled by the clothes you chose to wear that day.
For the longest time, I dreamed of moving to the city. “The city”—like it was the answer to all my problems. And this was because I thought if I lived in a place like London (yippee!) I could wear whatever I wanted without feeling like all eyes were on me (and not in a good way). Fast forward to present day, living in London, and I can say that I do feel like I can wear what I want—but I don’t think you need to live in London to wear what you like. And there are so many reasons why you should wear whatever you’re going to like yourself in.
Taking a little extra time in the morning to put together an outfit that you feel good in can boost your confidence and your energy for the day. Whenever I’m wearing clothes I love, I feel like I can take on the day and talk to anyone with a smile! Which is why I 100% recommend growing confidence in your own style.
Style is very personal, and part of what makes defining it difficult is that it reveals a lot about you. But there are multiple ways you can build confidence in your style that will build your confidence in your day to day life.
Have a Base
Have a go-to look in your wardrobe for those days you have no idea what to wear (I’m guilty of this 90% of the week). And you’ll also have this base to layer on and alter with other pieces. Maybe it’s a pair of jeans and a white T-shirt you can pair with cardigans and different pairs of shoes. This way you’re wearing something you’re always confident in but it’s never the same. My go-to is a sweater with black jeans, or some combination of my knee-high boots with shorts and something cozy on top (or when in doubt, wear all black).
Know How to Dress Your Body (buy clothes that fit!)
I can’t emphasize how much a difference this makes. I’ve bought so many pairs of jeans in the past that I’ve only worn once or twice because they don’t fit right. Go for pants that appreciate your figure, and dresses that hug in the right places. I tend to wear pants and skirts that are high-waist to make my legs look longer (but I’m not hiding my insecurities!). It’s crazy what illusions you can create and how much of a boost it can be.
Choose Colors That Compliment Your Skin
Okay, I’m completely guilty of wearing (almost!) no color whatsoever—I even choose my black jeans over my blue denim. But you can never go wrong with grey, black and white, guys (it goes with everything!).
Go look for outfits that are similar to your personality. I would be nowhere without the blogging world in terms of fashion. I feel like I can finally say I’m getting a grasp of what my style is, but not without influence of where it came from. You might discover new pairings and layering combinations that you might already have in your own closet. I scroll through Instagram and Bloglovin’ daily to grab inspiration. My style is mostly influenced by Jules Sariñana, Mary Seng and Aimee Song.
Take the Extra Time
Giving yourself an extra 15 minutes in the morning to put together your outfit, try a new makeup look, or do up your hair differently could start your day the right way. Rushing is going to carry anxiety into the rest of your day! And you’re giving yourself the attention you deserve—we have to look after ourselves 100%. Sometimes what you present on the outside can affect how you feel inside, and there’s nothing wrong with that.
I in no way have figured this out to a T, but I enjoy choosing my outfits everyday and never wear anything that makes me feel uncomfortable. Since embracing my own personal style, I’ve realized how important it is for me to give myself that sort of attention and have been so much more confident.